There is only 5 things you need to know about me...

Some people find me complex, while others read me like a book. I don't know how much more blunt I can be towards people but I try to stay true to myself. I don't talk about my friends, I don't backstab, and if I don't like you... you'll know! TRUST ME. Does that make me a bad person? I don't think so. If someone doesn't like that I air their slutty business, then maybe you shouldn't be a slut. Honestly I'm normally not airing it, someone else is and I'm putting my input out there. It's called freedom of speech, first amendment. Look it up. This post came about because drama seems to find me. Even when I'm not looking for it, or if I am. If I say something about you and you come back at me some way other than to my face... my job is done. I got under your skin so much your to scared to say something to my face but you can type on a key board haha. You gave me fulfillment and made my day, so thank you. If I choose to say something about you and it's not to your face, it's probably because if I did, you'd probably get hit in the face in the process. My past with verbal confrontation has never ended in just verbal confrontation haha whoops. BUT anyways... to the dang point.

5 thing you need to know from least importance...

# 5. My Character: I'm a bitch, I'm honest, I tell it how I see it, I don't bullshit. I have TRUE friends because of this. I trust my friends and if I have a friend that I can't trust, they normally don't last that long or I call them out and they straighten out. If you don't like me the way I am... tough, there is 8 billion other people in the world, if you don't want to be my friend, someone else will! I don't care if you think I'm rude or ugly or opinionated or fat or whatever your small mindedness wants to come up with. I am me. Daughter of two amazing freaking parents that raised me to be strong, with lots of friends who love me just the way I am, so I must be doing something right. Get a life, and get out of mine :)

# 4. Money: I come from money, I have money, I grew up having money. Am I greedy? No. Am I giving? Yes. Do I think I deserve special treatment because I have always had money? HELL NO. Money is paper, I could careless about that paper. The ONLY reason I have money is cuz my mother was a smart women who prepared for the worst and made sure me and my sister were taken care of. that does not mean I owe anybody anything! Greed is an ugly sin and I will not deal with people who are consumed with it.

# 3. My Backgroud: I was born and raised in Oakland, California. It will ALWAYS be my home. I love Texas and for my husband, we will raise our children there. Also because I've seen the trash that slums its way out of California. Heaven forbid my daughters ever turn into some of the sluts I know from there :)) But I am cali grown and nobody will ever bash my home. Raider fan for life, sucky or not and you can bet on that!

# 2. My Husband: Probably the most complex area of my life. I don't need anyone to understand our relationship or support it. I love him, he loves me. Sometimes I do things that piss him off and vice versa. We always come back together and we are always stronger. I love when people think they create any type of wedge. Honestly thank you for teaching my husband a lesson in knowing that he's always going to want to choose me and be with me. Thank you to all the dog tag chasers that show him how nasty and pathetic girls are today. I take pride in being clean in all aspects of a physical relationship with men. I was raised to be respectful of my body and the only man to take part in my body is my husband. My choice and I never regret it. Wasn't to hard when we were high school sweethearts lol. But don't get it twisted, you don't know him or us, please don't pass judgement. Stick to your own :)

# 1. My Family: 5 simple words... I will kill for them. That's all you need to know. Don't screw with them and I won't screw with you. And it's the same for at least my sister. You think I'm crazy or a bitch... just wait till you meet my big sister :) you'll wish you were never born... And guess what bitch... she lives in cali. Get well soon :)

To High of Expectations?

I'm in the process of doubting my thoughts lately because I think I am expecting to much. IDK. I don't want to toot my horn to much but I think I am a freaking catch. Sure I'm not a size 2 with blonde hair and blue eyes, but I think I'm pretty, I'm supportive, thoughtful, giving, and take care of the people I love. I just ask for the same in return. 

When I lived at home with my dad, he let me do what I wanted but ANY TIME I needed him there, he didn't even hesitate. He did things for me that I never even asked, he just knew. He made me soup when I was sick, went to get me ANYTHING I needed from the store, even tampons, and waited on me hand and foot if I needed it, which wasn't often. I love Jared but with all this crap going on I feel like I want him to do more. Then once one problem I'm annoyed at or not happy with is resolved, there is something else I want done differently. Idk if I'm pissed at him for everything going on or pissed he is leaving me in under 3 months and doesn't want to be attached to me at the hip like everyone elses husbands or what. But it's almost nerve wracking that everyone else is spending time together and Jared either A. wants to go out...fine or B. Hang out with friends... fine. I am always understanding but why the heck can't we just hang out at home by ourselves. Not go out and blow money, not hang out with friends, just sit at home on the couch, cuddle, and watch a movie?? Your going to spend 9 months with these guys, you can hang out then lol. 

And why when I'm sick or don't feel good, heaven forbid I ask you to do something, you'll do it but not before you throw and hour long fit. Like once you already do it, I don't even care anymore. See my dilemma? Is it to much to ask for to have a little pampering and taking care of from some other than myself. It seems like that's all I have up here, is myself. I literally can't wait to go home. And anyone that knows me knows that when one thing pisses me off its like a whirl wind of everything else. I start to nit pick everything that pisses me off or annoys me of a person. I hate being tickled, he tickles me almost everyday. I know he thinks hes being funny but I freaking hate it. Like no joke, it makes me what to hit him in the face. Two dishes after I slaved over dinner for 2 hours, puts them in the sink... really? Tells me hes going to be home in an hour so I make sure dinner is ready in about an hour... gets "distracted" with a friend working on his truck and forgets to tell me... Seriously? 

As you can see... very little little little minor things, but constantly annoying me everyday. I'm at my ends, something needs to change, or this 9 months apart will be a good vacation because he will get a taste of life without me doing every little thing for him. I'm sure I'll calm down eventually, just lately... it's to much!

Fears of Growing up...

Lately I've discovered so much about myself and my life that scares me. Not necessarily bad things, just things I never thought i'd ever have to deal with. When a girl grows up and imagines her life, she pictures all the good, not the bad. I had a perfect picture of what my life would be like. Granted me and Jared's start was rocky, but it went about how I had it planned in my head. We were together for 4 years then got married. I think you really need to get to know someone before you can promise them the rest of your life. And I do know Jared, I know his every deep dark corner and past and I will guard those for the rest of my life, together or not. It's the leading up to marriage. I never thought I'd have to go 5 months without seeing him, then getting proposed to and married all within a month just for him to be gone again. Then to go through all this stressful crap again on top of starting a new marriage. Army crap, moving crap, money crap.... crap on top of crap. Anybody have a shovel?

Let's just say this is not a good place for me right now! I am pushing my way through this load of CRAP as best I know how to, but man is it difficult. Especially when your so far away from all your support. I literally have the best sister, dad, and mother in law possible and I know they are only a call away but man I just wish I could be home in the sun driving my car, going to see my best friend and just hang out. I'm sick of this apartment, this place, these people. I wonder more and more each day if staying up here while Jared is deployed is even worth it. I know that's what I wanted but not at the risk of my health. It doesn't help that yes, I love my husband but he's to busy to be a good support system right now, which isn't mainly his fault but still. With him gone I'll have absolutely nobody. Idk, it's something I really need to think about but until then I am hoping to get good news about going to get my stuff and car soon, just so I can go home and see my daddy. And I'm counting the days till June 28th Because I get to go home again to see my sister, dad, and mother in law all in one weeked, along with a new kids on the block/boyz 2 men concert haha oh yahhhh! 

Life so far in Alaska

Man I'm really bad at this haha. It's the beginning of March and I haven't written since October but in my defense, stuff has been crazy. This stuff is not easy and my little taste of the army has not been a good one, but I am trying to stay positive. I am currently living in Alaska but I'm STILL NOT sponsored. I came up here mid November and we found a place to live, then I came in the beginning of December to sign the lease and again for Christmas and New years. All on my own dime by the way -_- I officially came up here January 18th. Been here ever since and I finally have my doctors appt. with the army on Friday and that is the last thing for my sponsorship to go through, then hopefully I can go get all my things from Texas. Me and Jared have been sleeping on an air mattress this whole time lol Thankfully I waited till I got here to buy all our furniture so we have couches and a kitchen table and everything. I also was smart and shipped a large box of kitchen stuff up before I came, so we pretty much have the necessities to survive right now but it's just annoying not having my bed and the apartment is so plain, I just want my decorations that I planned out so flawlessly lol, I want to make this place feel more like a home!

Other then the annoying army crap, some things have been nice and easy and others, hard and annoying. It's nice finally being on my own, the bills suck but that's life and growing up and I'm proud to be on my own and doing these things without help from my parents. Some annoying things are the dog tag chasers up here in Alaska, omg, the uniform attracts some of the weirdest girls but we are dealing and Jared got orders for Afghanistan for June 13th. It's terrifying to me but I've accepted, it's going to happen now or later so just deal. We are trying to spend as much time as possible together cuz I know this is going to be hard on the both of us, but we are strong.

My days really consist of me cleaning, organizing, cross stitching lol, and preparing dinner. Since the command sponsorship hasn't gone through I don't have my car as well. That takes a month to get here and it's not even in the process, so I'm really hoping we can get that moving soon. Having no car here really sucks. Jared bought a truck up here but of course he takes it to work. He offers to let me take him to work so I can have it, but really what do I have to do? nothing lol. I'm starting my school back up so by the time he's back from deployment I will be finished and I can get a real job and we can finish planning our wedding and start making plans for baby number 1. We finally set a date for the wedding. September 20, 2014. If you guys notice my blog about the proposal, it's 2 years after he proposed, so I thought it fit well. I don't want to keep the same anniversary as when we went to the JOP because its literally 5 days before my birthday and I would like some space between those days. I really like the idea of a September/fall wedding and can't wait to plan it!

That's pretty much been it so far. Now that I have so much free time I'm going to try to update this more. Keep us in your prayers that our stuff gets here soon, before both of us have horrible back problems from this air mattress lol!

Engaged...Married...Moving

AHHHH! So much in such little time my brain is exploding lol. I'll start from my last post, and apologize I haven't posted anything in a month. I was on the money with my last post and Jared proposed in front of his entire platoon. Just like our story of how we met I honestly don't think I will ever get tired of telling this story either. I drove my 9 freaking hours to Ft. Leonardwood from where we live in Texas and got there Friday afternoon. I got to see him for like 4 hours thankfully before I had to drop him back off. We talked that night on the phone and he kept telling me tomorrow is going to be such a great day... I'm like why WHY tell me WHY lol. I went to go pick him up and his cover story was that his friend, Van Rossum, was going to meet me by this huge tree near my car... in my head I'm thinking, ok, Van Rossum knows what my car looks like, so why is Jared making me stand by this tree. We actually got into a fight about it haha cuz I didn't want to go stand alone by this tree and he was yelling at me from across the street pointing at this dang tree lol. Finally I was like whatever! and went to stand by the tree. All of a sudden his entire platoon (which were in formation) started to march up the street. So now I'm pissed, I'm like, wth they aren't even releasing him so why am I standing here, They march up the street and start to cross the street, I'm like wahhh? Then they head towards me, at this point I'm like RUNNNNNN! lol so sweet, yet embarrassing. He marched the whole platoon right in front of me, they all took a knee around us why he gave his speech, which he wrote down ahah, so cute cuz now I have it framed :) He got on one knee and asked me to spend the rest of my life with him. I couldn't help but giggle while I said yes and everybody screamed HOOAH! Almost everyone in the platoon recorded it and snapped pictures. Youtube Ft. Leonardwood proposal, it's there haha. I'll try to post it on here.

And if the proposal wasn't cute enough, he some how pulled off the ring. I didn't marry Jared for his money, so I was expecting something small and simple, which was fine with me. But he had something up his sleeve, I know today some of the ways he pulled it off but he worked hard to get me what I wanted. He wanted me to have something nice, and I stare at it everyday, it's amazing!

 His mom, my dad, and sister were all in on it lol. I knew my dad, but my sister! All the way in Colorado, don't know how she kept the lid on that one. I couldn't wait to get home and show it off. I was a little worried how everyone would perceive it just because of everything we have gone through and all the ups and downs my family and his have see us endure but lucky enough for us, things have improved so much over the years, I was welcomed with open ours and happiness from both of our families. Not being from a close tight nit family, it meant a lot to finally feel accepted. I love my in laws and his family so much, there's no doubt in my mind, that's my family to now. They are seriously the best, and we have come a long way lol. 

Now Jared's home and we got "officially" married at the JOP just for military purposes, we still plan to have our wedding. We just had our engagement party and send off party for Jared yesterday because he leaves the 1 of November for Alaska. Unfortunately I will have to wait to get command sponsored before I can head up there to. Hopefully it won't be to long. It's so great to see how many supporters we have and how many people came to see us off and congratulate us, we seriously have the best family and friends anyone could ask for!

Going to visit my Boyfriend... and somethings up...

So I'm heading up to Ft. Leonardwood to see Jared and he's been acting very funny! Not in a bad suspicious way but questioning me about things that normally come after a proposal. Now, I know a proposal is coming when he's home. We talk about it all the time, shoot all his basic letters were about getting married. It's going to happen. BUT, there is no way for him to buy a ring on base really, I mean there are the rings at the PX but not to sound totally greedy, they really aren't my style. Over the 4 years I have provided him with the necessary documentation he needs to get me exactly what I want haha. Gosh that sounds horrible lol. No really, I'd be happy with whatever, as long as it comes from him on one knee. I got home from church the other day and my dad said Jared called him to talk about asking my hand in marriage... wahhhhhh lol. We've talked about this and he knows he needs my dads permission, so why is he asking now. And if he's doing it this weekend, why is my dad spilling the beans haha, what a horrible secret keeper! Anyways I will be excited to see what happens. I love him so much and want nothing than to just start our lives together :)

I forgot the pain of a blog...

I forgot how frustrating it is trying to get your blog perfect when you start one out! I use to be a whizz kid at computer codes and html coding but man! I forgot how much there was to it lol! Finally I think I got everything worked out and am ready to finish everything up and blog it up with all you other bloggers and army spouses/families. I'm really excited to answer questions, give experiences, and just hear all about everyone and their lives. I guess it depends on the day but I can go from being a social butterfly to a complete shut in so its so nice to have my blog to let it all out to on days I don't get that social interaction! Especially being a newbie moving to freaking ALASKA where I will know absolutely no one lol. My boyfriend originally got orders for KOREA! Can you believe that? I about had a cow, omg I was freaking out! Much to my relief his orders got mixed with a roommates and Alaska was our new destination. I'm all for experience and excitement and traveling the world with him but Korea... for our first duty station... so far from both of our families! I was not excited. Alaska is far enough for me. I really didn't want to go overseas and even though Alaska IS considered overseas, I don't consider it that. Plus I've heard nothing but good things and I know it's beautiful up there and it's somewhere I've never been, and I've been a lot of places lol, so I'm excited!

I'm suppose to go visit Jared this weekend in Missouri and I'm so excited. I went over Labor day weekend last time which I think was only like 3 weeks ago but I miss him. Of course, I better get use to it, but with my best friend and main person I hang out with out of town this week as well I have been extra super bored! Although I have been sick so I guess its good they're both gone because I need to rest. With them here I'd never get 5 minutes alone to myself lol. I'm excited to see all the guys Jared's made friends with as well. As weird as that is to say, I really like these guys. If you've read my page about Jared you know he's not the greatest at choosing friends haha so it's a dang miracle that he finally has some good guys! Well that's all for now really, just a small update. Time to get back to perfecting this blog. I really hope you all enjoy and we can share throughout the day! :)